You’re out with friends, but you’re the shy guy. The one who listens more than they speak, but someone has caught your eye. You may not have caught theirs, potentially, but that doesn’t mean they haven’t looked your way. Then self-doubt creeps in, are you even attracting them?
Being quiet has been equated to being boring, lackluster and aloof to certain people, but is being quiet attractive? Depends on who you ask. It’s a trait that some deem necessary for a potential partner, while others prefer someone more extroverted.
Is quietness based on personality, defense mechanisms, or something else? Those that are silent are able to attract based on presence alone, and just because you are quiet in the initial stages of talking to someone doesn’t mean you are any less unattractive.
If you’re quiet, it means you take a lot longer to open up to someone. Regardless of who that may be, you have a tight-knit friend group, your circle is small and slightly closed off. Don’t let that take away from your other strengths.
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Being quiet in a room full of loud can add that mystique to your persona, even if you know yourself, no one else around you does. What does that mean for you? Are you presenting yourself in a quiet, yet incomparable way?
One who is silent evokes mystery from others. Why are you silent? Why don’t you speak? People will pivot and create a fantastical element into who you are before they ever approach you, but it’s all about presentation. Are you the quiet guy dressed in khakis and a white tee, minding their own business at the bar, coffee shop, or mall?
The questions are there to pose you with your own answer, someone who is quiet can still present who they are outward, by how they dress, and their mannerisms. Words spoken are often equated to someone and how they act, but actions are the defining feature of any such person. Words are what facilitate thoughts into voice, but actions provide that same facilitation.
Quiet is the pathway in which others can build an idea of who someone is. It’s like the cover of a book, the title and art pose questions to any that look, and it’s up to them to open it and find out what’s inside. Just make sure you are presenting an adequate portrayal of yourself. Being honest and true while being quiet go hand in hand, no one is quiet forever.
You must speak eventually.
From any outsider’s perspective, as stated, quiet adds mystery. The mystery is exciting due to the idea of it being able to be solved. But like any mystery, sometimes the answer is not as satisfying as the question.
Being quiet is, if anything, a trait that people view at an introductory level. It’s one that will graft itself against your personality before you shed it and metamorphosize into reality. It’s a non-sequitur in the long run of relationships, and friendships — though it does play a part in initial attraction.
If you’re a reader, carry a book, if you’re an avid music listener, wear headphones. Know that these small things are what you’re able to use to bolster your personality into a more realistic portrayal of yourself, while never venturing too far out of your comfort zone.
If you’re a reader, carry a book, if you’re an avid music listener, wear headphones. Know that these small things are what you’re able to use to bolster your personality into a more realistic portrayal of yourself, while never venturing too far out of your comfort zone.
Be quiet, be yourself. The most attractive quality of someone is a person who stays true to who they are, under any circumstance does not compromise on their beliefs for the sake of comfort. Continue carrying your own weight, yourself, and you’ll find that the people who are wanting that will gravitate toward you.